When people give you unwanted advice

So I am on Facebook and I am simply putting my feelings out there about how I feel about my girlfriend going back home to a different state then me and I may never see her again since I know she is not happy being in my state. Not that we won't still contact each other now and then and we will be friends when she goes home, but I do have the right to miss her without people suggesting that I move to her state with her.

I don't have money to move and neither does she. She was here to go to school so she can work back home, and we agreed to just have a summer romance and knew it would have to end soon. But all I get from people on Facebook is why don't you go after her and live with her, you two seem so happy together.

Hay I would live with my girl if I had money, or felt that I could contribute to our life together, but I can't and I am tired of acquaintances who I don't think know my situation well, or who did not even ask me  why we are mutually braking up,  giving unwanted advice. They feel that they have a right to  state what they think you should do to keep the one you love without asking why the bake up has to happen in the first place.

 So this is what I got to say to those ' helpful people out there who simply want to sound important'. Quit it, Facebook is not only about being helpful to each other, but also a place for people to vent their feelings about something without unwanted advice about their feelings or situation. Just knowing you have a place to vent your feelings is just good enough.

Why Illinois Needs to pass Marriage Equality

As always I need to out myself. I Am Gay! And I have the right to marry the lady I love. And hopefully one day I will. I mean DOMA is GONE!! One of many laws that was keeping lots of  people in my community from being able to marry the person they love. DOMA and Don't Ask, Don't Tell are now history! Both laws kept a lot of LGBT people from being themselves freely without fear.

With the death of these two laws we now can get even closer to being our best selves. Binational couple are safe from deportation, and couples can now get the federal recognition for who they are. So what is there still to do? States.

States can still makes laws that affect the state from recognizing same-sex families. So far California, Iowa, New York, Connecticut, Delaware, Massachusetts, Main, Maryland, Vermont, Washington, New Hampshire, Rhode Island, Minnesota, and DC have marriage equality and that is a great start! But there is still a lot of work to be done to get more states to recognize the community.

I live in Illinois, were we do have civil unions, but not marriage. Civil Unions are good, but not quiet the same as marriage, and that is the work that is still needed to be done, to get Illinois to be the next state to have Marreige Equality. I mean I want to marry in the state I live in. I don't want to have to go to another state to marry just to get the state and federal recognition that I have the right to.

I know we can do it! We are a great community, and we fight for what we believe in, and I believe in marrying the lady I love. I know it will happen, it has to happen, ILLINOIS will be the next state to have Marriage Equality!! Yes We Can!!