Why Illinois Needs to pass Marriage Equality

As always I need to out myself. I Am Gay! And I have the right to marry the lady I love. And hopefully one day I will. I mean DOMA is GONE!! One of many laws that was keeping lots of  people in my community from being able to marry the person they love. DOMA and Don't Ask, Don't Tell are now history! Both laws kept a lot of LGBT people from being themselves freely without fear.

With the death of these two laws we now can get even closer to being our best selves. Binational couple are safe from deportation, and couples can now get the federal recognition for who they are. So what is there still to do? States.

States can still makes laws that affect the state from recognizing same-sex families. So far California, Iowa, New York, Connecticut, Delaware, Massachusetts, Main, Maryland, Vermont, Washington, New Hampshire, Rhode Island, Minnesota, and DC have marriage equality and that is a great start! But there is still a lot of work to be done to get more states to recognize the community.

I live in Illinois, were we do have civil unions, but not marriage. Civil Unions are good, but not quiet the same as marriage, and that is the work that is still needed to be done, to get Illinois to be the next state to have Marreige Equality. I mean I want to marry in the state I live in. I don't want to have to go to another state to marry just to get the state and federal recognition that I have the right to.

I know we can do it! We are a great community, and we fight for what we believe in, and I believe in marrying the lady I love. I know it will happen, it has to happen, ILLINOIS will be the next state to have Marriage Equality!! Yes We Can!!

PRIDE!!!!

It is PRIDE again!! I look forward to Pride month all year. And since I am an Out and Proud Lesbian it is no surprise that I walked in the parade the past several years. I have walked with several organizations in the parade and volunteer all month in Midsummer Fest, and Pride Fest. It is an AWSOME time for my community and I would love nothing better then to be as involved as possible.

This is also a very historic time: Supreme Court decision on Prop 8, and DOMA is still on the horizon, and Illinois, hopefully on the verge of  hopefully passing the marriage bill. So this year is kind of a big deal.

  CHANGE IS COMING people !!! it is a great time TO BE GAY!!!

A New Year is Coming

                                    A New Year is Coming


   Well HI THERE!! All you wonderful people. Yes I have not been blogging that much. I really never blog except if I feel I want to say something. As of now I have not had much to say. I have been busy job searching.  Yes, I too have been unemployed for a year now and have, just like all of you out there, struggling to have even a little money, and still struggling even now.

  The one thing I have going for me is that my little place is paid for by my parents. Thank God, or I would be on the streets, and they are also nice in paying the bills. So I guess I really can't complain. But I have very little money to do anything else except watch TV. So in that sense I do need to have a job so I can afford to do more than just sit and watch TV.

    So far I want a job for the new year. What else? A girl friend would be great. As you all know I am an OUT and PROUD Lesbian !! and with all the wonderful changes that are taking place for our community to have families, I to wish to have a partner.  A wonderful woman who wants to be treated like a princess. I have been on a few dates, but no prospects. I know I can make a lady happy and just want the chance to prove it.

      Now I have two wishes for the New Year; a job, and a wife. What else? Well we all want to lose weight. I have joined a gym not long ago and I am trying to use it as much as I can. But come on, some of us just get too busy, or forget to go to the gym. So who knows, maybe I will remember to go, or just not bother. I have made an honest attempt to make sure I at least eat healthy this year. I make sure I have nothing but fruit and veggies in the house, but I will admit to getting takeout a lot, so I guess I am not good a keeping that promise.

     So again three wishes for the New Year; A Job, A Wife, and good Health. What else?  I don't know. There is a lot to wish for out there. Peace in the Middle East, Continue the progress in the LGBTQ community, Maybe a better life for everyone on earth, on and on and on......

     I guess there is no more to say about the coming New Year, except to say I am glad the earth didn't explode on 12-21-12, and wishing everyone a Happy and Healthy New Year 2013!!!!

Living a single lesbian life

So, here is a resent photo of me. Not bad hay, well still this doesn't give me any booty, or a partner for that matter. I have been single for, wow, many years, and still no woman has shown much interested other then being a friend. Which is OK, I like having friends. But that ideas doesn't help during those long, lonely nights. I am aware that wile there are now millions of same-sex marriages, there are just as many single LGBTs that either choose to be single, or for one reason or another just can't find the right woman for them.

Maybe that is my problem. I am picky. Maybe I have this huge imagination about what the perfect woman for me would be.

Well she does need to want me, I mean I don't want to waist my time with a woman who doesn't care about me or anything. I would do anything for a woman who shows she cares. She also should be a little sexy, maybe average size or better. Maybe blond, or brunet, I don't care about hair or eye color. Nor do I care if she is tall or short, heck I'm short. She does need to be educated, at least a BA in something. I have a BA in film so at lest that or more. And, most of all, lives in the same state as I do. I so hate long distance relationship. I just don't see the point in those. The longer apart a couple are, the easier it is to find someone els, then what happens. You brake up. So that is not for me.

So were does all of that leave me. Well, lonely, for sure. Hanging around the other lesbians just hoping one will show some interest in me. But I am working on excepting that it is ok. That list is just a wish list. Having the friends that I have and being somewhat supported from my family at least gives me some comfort and that is at least something. I will aways wish to have a civil union, but I can only have what I have, so what can I say.

IT IS PRIDE AGAIN!!!

Yay, for PRIDE!! What a time of year!! My community comes alive as we all celebrate being US!! being GAY, LESBIAN, BI, TRANS, and QUEERER. Yes it is PARTY TIME! This year is especially special to celebrate because a lot has happened in the community the past year. DADT is gone, marriages, and civil unions are all around, even TV is showing us in a good light, and for the third time I will be in the parade.

I love being in the pride parade. You walk for what seems like houres and crowds shout and clap as you walk with your fellow lesbians. You feel a rush of joy and happiness as you see how much people except you and are proud that you are you.

Of cores there is nothing wrong with being in the crowd either, except you are stuck with smelly, drunk people that scream in your ear and you are unable to see what is going on, so you have to push through the smelly crowd and if you are lucky someone will move for you to let you see what is going on.

Let us not forget all the parties that go on, OH WOW are there parties! Midsummer fest with all it's food and music will may you gain a hundred pounds then loos it by sweating to the beat of what ever band is playing, the shops that sell their stuff for pennies will make you feel like a millionaire with all your bags of goodies.

The Backlot Bash is not to be missed with lesbians upon lesbians drinking and dancing for three nights in a row. I mean nothing but alcohol and rock bands blasting all night long. Everyone just goes crazy and there is dancing and making out all over the place.

But that is what happens, and it is all in good fun and feeling good for who we are as a people, and who we are as a community.

HAPPY PRIDE!!!!!!!!!!!

Celebrating the Genderless Baby

A Genderless Baby, thank God, for a genderless baby. We should all celebrate in the wonderful life of a genderless baby, for this is the final frontier. GENDER is the final frontier because it is what we are all seen as. Man is man, woman is woman. We are all programed to just see two genders and except two genders. Yet there are tons of non-western cultures that recognize several genders, even celebrate the differences amongst them.

Why is this worth celebrating and recognizing? Because this is what is feared the most, NO GENDER. The religious right doesn't know what to do about it, everyday communication will change, and people will have to start thinking in a different way. The concept of seeing people as people and not by their gender. WOW, what a concept! We all must celebrate this new and wonderful baby.

The other reason for recognizing this is that I am gay. To be more specific, a Butch ( a lesbian who looks and acts more like a male), and even more specific soft butch. There are all kinds of butches, as there are all kinds of Fems (a lesbian who looks and acts feminine). If we follow this we see there are lots of different kinds of males and females.

What constitutes a male and female? Well the genitalia, you know, between the legs. So what if there wasn't any genitalia? Maybe breasts, but what if there weren't any breasts? How else will the GENDER be identified? Good question; BY THE INDIVIDUAL HUMAN! Everybody has the right to say and identify who they are. This is why this baby needs to be recognized as a wonderful being of change.

The genderless baby is the first of what I believe and hope will be the generation that will bring the ultimate change we all need, to be seen and judged by our deeds, not by our gender.

Being Nice and Being seen as Silly

So here I am, A single lesbian and I am simply trying to get to know other women as a friend, just a friend, and I am seen as putting the moves on them when all I am doing is trying to be nice like getting to know them, chatting, going for a bite, and just happen to have gift certificates.

I tell you I don't get it when after you go out just for a simple bite with a women you like and just want to get to know better, they turn around and almost accuse you of putting the moves on them. I mean all you are doing is using the gift certificates you were holding on for months and are just sitting around going to waist, and who wants to waist money like that.

Did she think that since I just happen to have the gift certificates that I was putting the moves on her? I don't see it. If a women was putting the moves on me it would have to be more obvious than that. I see this as a nice gesture, not a move.

I have been in flings that were a lot more obvious then just sitting and talking. There were moves being done then simply paying for a bite with certificates. I mean there was hand holding, kissing, hugging, flirting, etc... going on at the table then just a friendly conversation about life and work that me and the woman had.

I am just confused? there you are just simply sitting and enjoying the company of a fellow lesbian, laughing and eating and then paying for the meal with gift certificates and thinking everything is fine and then suddenly getting an e-mail that read along the lines of, 'you know we are just friends right?' An insult. Trying to be nice and all you get is an insult, making you feel like you are some kind of a slut or something.

How does anyone get to know anybody without seeming silly or whatever? I mean why do people have gift certificates in the first place if they are not going to use them. I just wanted to use the certificates I had and at the same time get to know someone. Why am I the bad girl here when all I was doing was talking to someone.

I leave this out there so people can see how silly it is to over react to a simple gesture of someone paying for lunch with gift certificates.